If you are here, you most probably have trouble dealing with fear. Fear keeps you from becoming all that you’ve ever wanted in life. It is very obvious when you look closely within: You find that there is fear in your heart… Stick with me, we’ll try to find solutions to help you.
Wikipedia describes fear as a “feeling induced by perceived danger or threat that occurs in certain types of organisms, which causes a change in metabolic and organ functions and ultimately a change in behavior, such as fleeing, hiding, or freezing from perceived traumatic events.”
Past rejections and failures in life may have terribly traumatized you. What you see without is a reflection of what you have seen within your mind. You project onto the world the thoughts and feelings that preoccupy you. I know, I’ve been there too. It made you pretty sure that if you start something big, you would fail. The fear is what enables that darkness to come in. This is why you don’t aim for the stars because you have this inherent apprehension in you.
What is it that you’ve always wanted to do, but never started it because you’ve never truly believed in your own power? I’m sure you know what I am talking about.You fear of what people will say about you when you fail, fear of not being understood, fear of not fitting in… the list goes on. This fear stops you from being the very best version of yourself.
It tricks you into thinking that you don’t have what it takes to achieve your dreams. Sometimes you don’t even have a rational explanation for the way you feel. Whenever you feel alone and devoid of love, this fear creeps in and freezes you. This fear was planted years ago in your ‘mind garden’ and it is high time that you weed it out. 😉
Fortunately I have good news for you! You can keep under this fear if you take the right approach. You already have the power to focus your mind to replace feelings of being fearful with the feeling of inner peace and strength. I have no doubts that you can do it.
How to deal with it?
1- Everything happens in your mind:
You only need to understand that all troubles arise from your mind itself. You can see the world differently by changing your mind about what you want to see. Know that you have almost unlimited power to change the way your thought patterns have formed. First you need to calm the mind and you do this by focusing on your breath.
Breathe. Seriously, breathe and slow the fuck down. There is no rush. This instant is the only time there is.
Breathe and be aware of yourself. Breathe as slowly as you can. Aim for less than 6 cycles of inhalation and exhalation for each minute of the day. There is an intimate relationship between the mind and the breath. As you control your breath, the mind naturally becomes serene by itself.
Be mindful, as the buddha once said, of your inhalations and exhalations. There is no need to judge the thoughts that distract, just see them arise and fade away in you. Return your awareness to your breath.
Now, as you are now more peaceful with yourself, try visualising your goal. Make as if you have already reached your goal. Imagine how you would feel when you achieve what you’ve always wanted. Include as much detail as possible. Let your mind show you the various ways of how you did it. Feel the sense of happiness, the sense of joy and accomplishment in you.
If you do it even 5 minutes everyday, within 1 week you will feel a lot calmer and with time, fear will only be a problem of the past. Whenever you are tempted to be fearful, bring your awareness to your breath and remind yourself that you can experience love instead.
All this, unfortunately, requires time and dedication. We never get anything easily anyway, do we? So, you might as well do your best to try to improve yourself through love.
2- Exercise regularly
Everyone knows that when you exercise, your body releases chemicals called endorphins. These endorphins interact with the receptors in your brain that reduce your perception of pain.
Do it on a daily basis and watch your beautiful life unfold.
Needless to say, exercise will keep your body fit and you’ll have a much positive outlook on life. Do whatever your heart likes: it can be swimming, hiking, walking, dancing…
It is very important that you have a balanced diet if you want to be the best version of yourself. Harvard recommends eating lots of plants including fruits and veggies, whole grains (in unprocessed form, ideally), seeds and nuts, with some lean proteins like fish and yogurt.
Avoid things made with added sugars or flours (like breads, baked goods, cereals, and pastas), and minimize animal fats, processed meats (sorry, bacon), and butter.
Quality matters over quantity. And when it comes to what we eat, quality really matters.
Bring on the good healthy foods!!
The quality of your sleep could play a role in how your brain responds to fear, which, in turn, could determine how likely you are to develop post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), as shown by this study.
REM sleep may play a key role in helping the brain prepare itself for, and withstand the effects of, emotional trauma. Even if sleep is still considered to be an unproductive phase when you do nothing at night, you still need REM sleep to have a healthy emotional health.
5- Get professional help
There is no shame in asking for help. Getting professional help for dealing with your persistent fears is definitely a good thing to consider. You’ll get to find new strategies to look at fear and you’ll live a happier life. It is ok to ask for help. The more you’ll talk about it, the lesser grip will fear have on you. So go for it!
What are you waiting for? Be completely honest with yourself and go live the life you truly deserve. Just do it. Life is too short for hesitation.
The book “Love is letting of of fear by Jampolsky” inspired me a lot while writing this article. Do check it out!
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